Fake Friends, Fans, Fashion and Fame a Short Rant


Friends & Fans

As I look back over my 25+ years of being in the Fashion Biz, one of the things I have noticed (and this is not exclusive to Fashion) that this formula applies.

Fashion + Fame + Fans = Fake Friends

and the inverse applies as well

- Fashion - Fame = “0” Fans and Fake Friends

So to those of you on the rise noticing that you seem to have a lot more “Friends and Fans” than when things weren’t going so great, best to go back to your roots and do a serious assessment of your reality. Oh and as one Fashion Stylist who’s name will remain anonymous once said to us (just after attempting to destroy the reputation of an Artist so dear to us and not knowing how close we knew him, “Loyalty, Loyalty? What Loyalty, there is none in this business. It is Dog Eat Dog…Kill or Be Killed!” 

    About Benjamin Kanarek
    Fashion and Beauty Photographer. Some of the magazines I have shot for include: VOGUE (China, Portugal, Brazil, Italia, Paris and South America & Mexico editions), RG VOGUE Brazil, Harper’s BAZAAR (China, en Español & Latin America, Hong Kong, Italy editions), L’Officiel Paris, ELLE (Spain, Portugal and Greece editions), Madame Figaro (France), Cosmopolitan (France and Italy editions), Glamour (France), Votre Beauté, Jardin des Modes, Dépêche Mode, New York Daily News, Fashion District News, New York Times Magazine, W (British edition), WWD, Fashion Magazine (Canada), Flare (Canada), Oyster, Tank, WestEast…
    • http://www.benjaminkanarekblog.com/ Benjamin Kanarek

      Love this song :)

    • http://twitter.com/StuartFawcett Stuart Fawcett

      Hope you are over your disappointment with some, and so seeing more truth in others. Friends with common interests outside of your work are often easier to spot. Keep time for these activities.
      Good Luck.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Skip-Gue/669386196 Skip Gue


    • Manuela Claudia L

      Well, from a spiritual point of view, people that surrounds us are the
      mirror of ourselves in a form or another. Usually, what we don’t like in
      others, is something that we have to work on ourselves. The more we are
      unaware, or non-acceptant of our defaults, the more acute the situation
      coming our way will be, to make us realize what we have to improve on.

      the other hand, we have to be able to forgive to those friends, &
      accept the fact that they are at their best, and that’s the best that
      they can do obviously. We have to remember that everyone is good at
      hart, but they somehow, by force of circumstances, let a fake self to
      build up over their real self. The fashion world is quite an illusion
      based world, so it requires a strong character in order to keep our
      integrity & positive attitude all the time. Non judgment &
      forgiveness are not easy, but is the next step for us humans in our soul
      evolution, to create a beautiful & peaceful world!

      I would
      like to say as well, that I didn’t intent this comment as personal! It
      is not meant to offend you, all I know about you is that your work is
      great, or anybody else! It was meant as a suggestion based on my
      personal experience, since I am not a saint either and I continuously
      learn/try to improve! But, as this conflictual situation is very common
      and stressful in our lives in general, I hope that my insight will be
      helpful for at least one person! The bad as the good, can spread fast
      & everyone’s contribution is important to the world, we just have to
      chose what is that contribution like. And, the fashion world was always
      a trend setter, so why not evolve her self now to a higher valued trend
      setting? :)